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| Mel Robbins |
In a short YouTube video, she kindly offers everybody some free advice that she feels very deeply about.
Can somebody that popular be wrong? Does God agree with Mel's advice? Should you implement Mel's free advice?
Here is Mel's video:
Most of us are far from perfect. Mel suggests we high-5 ourselves in the mirror every morning. Mel says that "science" backs her up on this recommendation, but fails to provide a link.
Will this celebrate our mediocrity, locking us in to our current misery we pretend is OK?
My Advice
Instead of Mel's idea, I suggest we should all identify our greatest fault or weakness and maximize our motivation to change for the better. Big, impossible problems are solved by doing a a little improvement each day.
For example, do you have any ideas you could implement today that would save 5 minutes of effort tomorrow, or avoid a catastrophy?
Assuming you work 8 hrs/day, a 5 min. savings is an improvement of 5/(8×60)×100%= 1.04%.
Doesn't seem like much, but repeat that once per week for the next year (52 repeats), you get 1.04^52= 769% improvements (ie. you're 7.69 times better)
What would your boss, or your family, neighbours, or friends say to you if you improved 769% in just one year?
I suggest you'd truly have something worth high 5-ing yourself in the mirror; far better than Mel's suggestion of deceiving yourself to celebrate fossilized mediocrity, taking away your drive to improve.
In addition, God will help you, strengthen you; if you make your changes towards greater righteousness. Here's what you need to know:
Mel's advice is similar to most other "feel good" life coaches, psychologists, & psychiatrists.
Everybody gets a gold star. Everybody is celebrated just for participating. Nobody keeps score, for we don't want to crush the ego of no child.
Most wrongly try to foster pride & self-esteem, regardless if there is anything worthy of pride. The worse kind of pride is false pride. This is a pandemic today, also called or accompanied by vanity, selfishness, amour propre, conceitedness, egotism, narcissism, self-esteem, self-absorbed, cocky, self righteous, or self-love.
Lucifer was the greatest creation of God among the angels. Lucifer became prideful, then that pride lead him to covet the worship that God receives. Lucifer's pride led him to believe he was equally worthy of worship, which was self deception, delusions of grandeur. Pride before the fall.
God's Advice
What does God say?:
[Psa 119:36 KJV] "Incline my heart unto thy testimonies, and not to covetousness."[Rom 12:3 KJV] "For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith."[Phl 2:3-5 KJV] "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:"
Discussions
Awhile ago, I cautioned against self-love, and selfishness. Some people were upset with me about this. This is the Bible verse I was referring to:
[2Ti 3:1-2 KJV] "This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,"
Excessive self-love is related to self-esteem.
For example, bullies have been found to have unrealistically high levels of self-esteem.
Self-esteem became a newly invented industry, California school system started trying to teach children to raise their self-esteem, but this was a get rich quick scheme for the consultants, trainers, and so-called experts; deceiving millions of people.
Does self-esteem exist? No! says Dr. Jordan Peterson
For the same reason, excessive self-love leads to selfishness, inappropriate levels of self-esteem, narcissism, and others dysfunctions.
It can torment a person as they are forced to live a lie, forced to artificially pump up their self-esteem levels forever each day, or readily agree to bad advice to high-5 themselves every morning in the mirror.
Having a self-esteem addiction is like having a slow leak in your car's tire, that you have to refill with air every day.
Self-esteem addicts can be people who chronically pretend with others, and are often found out to by hypocrites who are never honest, always pretend, are plastic people, with trust issues.
Instead of constantly feed our self-esteem beast, how does God want us to be?
God wants us to be meek, contrite, self-effacing, serve others rather than serving ourselves, take the lowly seats rather than assume we're always seated at the head table.
God is the One and only One that is good, and great. All glory and worship goes to God, not us.
Worship God, not yourself.
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